The Problem with Modern DIY Weddings...

The term ‘DIY Wedding’ used to mean couples getting creative, making things, using old unwanted items like pallets for their day schedule, cutting flowers from their own garden or from family member’s. Writing their own place cards and making napkins from old fabric.

Now - it seems to mean buying a lot of cheap crap from Temu and Shein, made by people being overworked and underpaid. Hey, no shame if you’ve done this, it’s a no-brainer because it’s so cheap you literally couldn’t even make things yourself for that price. But what is the real cost of that? The system and the industry is in such a mess.

I wonder sometimes, this pressure on how weddings are ‘supposed’ to be, where does it all come from? Some of it is from parents and family members possibly, but really I think social media and the internet is a massive contributor. We’ve never before been so bombarded by so many photos of wedding trends, big lavish dining tables and insane amounts of flower arrangements. These aren’t just celebrities weddings we’re seeing on TV and in papers, these are ‘everyday’ people and this puts extra pressure on couples to make their wedding also ‘instagram worthy’.

What if we cared less about what other people thought? What if we went back to the old ways of being creative? Finding ways to give old items a new life, buying second hand from couples who have got married before. Getting our friends and family involved so they can feel part of it too. And the main thing - it being a reflection of you as a couple! Instead of being sold this ‘dream’ by massive corporations that take advantage of poverty to make the rich richer and try to convince us that the most important thing is how your wedding ‘looks’.

I’d love to know your thoughts on this, leave a comment below.

Jess x