Things I Do to Help My LGBTQ+ Couples Feel Safe When Planning Their Wedding

I know that the wedding industry can sometimes feel like a minefield of assumptions and ‘traditional’ expectations. If you’re LGBTQ+ and planning a wedding that’s an extra layer of worry. But here, we do things differently.

We start with a blank slate. We strip away the pressure of what you ‘should’ be doing, and we focus on what actually matters: your connection, your joy, and your truth. 🌿✨

Lotus Photography, from a styled shoot in March at The Blue Pool, Wareham

The things I do (consistently, not just in June) that include everyone, regardless of gender, preference or background.

I use neutral terms

By default I use 'Couple', 'To Be Weds', 'Wedding Party', 'Morning Prep'. If you want to be called a bride or groom I will absolutely do that too.

Space to be fully you

You should be able to celebrate your love in exactly the way you see fit. Not how other's want to box it up. Mirco ceremony with a meal in a pub after? It's your wedding. I will support whatever it is that you really want.

Traditions are optional

Speaking of, the right choice is the one that feels best, not just because it's what's always been done. If standing up and saying some words around your nearest and dearest fills you with joy, amazing. If the idea of doing an awkward 'first dance' with everyone staring at you makes you squirm, sack it off.

Finding other allies

I can help find other wedding suppliers that make you feel safe, comfortable and celebrate your love, rather than just accept it.

I'm not perfect

But I am willing to ask, and correct myself. It's not your job to correct me, but I'm human and I'm always learning. If something is not quite right, I will fix it.

Inclusion is a practice, not a month

I might be talking about this now, but all of these things I've been doing since the start of my business, always, in the background. It's about giving your love the celebration it deserves, all year round.

Read - What if you don't want a traditional wedding?

Dominic Williams Photography - from a styled shoot at Rudge Farm, Bridport

Plan an authentic LGBTQ+ wedding

At its core, a wedding is just two people making a beautiful, intentional commitment to one another. Everything else is optional. And they should be choices made in joy and love, not pressure and worry.

For me, being an ally isn’t a seasonal trend or a rainbow flag in June. It’s the quiet, consistent work of holding space for every kind of love, all year round.

Your love is already enough. You are enough. Let’s celebrate that. 🥰 contact me to organise a chat, to see if we vibe.